Originally published 2012

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On the day of my 2^nd cesarean section (C/S) I was nervous, anxious and just wanting to get it all over with. I had asked my OB about the possibility of a vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC). She said she was supportive but also told me of her colleague she had just sectioned who (with her expertise) had chosen a repeat cesarean section (RCS) over a VBAC. With no encouragement and little knowledge on my part, I agreed to the RCS. I remember lying on the operating table. My arms strapped down. I had a mini-panic attack and knew right then that I would NOT be going through this again. Ever. So, for the next three years, I had NO desire to ever be pregnant again. Then, baby fever hit and hit hard!

With my first baby, I had decided to go about labor all-natural. No pain medicines. I thought just choosing that was enough. But before I knew it, this snowball effect of standard hospital interventions smothered my plans in IV’s, routine Pitocin to augment labor even though I was in active labor on my own, ephedrine to counter-act my reactions to the Pitocin, artificial rupture of my waters (AROM), epidural to counteract the unnatural Pitocin induced contractions, stalled labor, distressed baby, emergency C/S. The recovery was no fun. I took the prescribed pain meds and have little memory of the first week with my new baby. I healed well and quick but it was not the birth I had envisioned for my first baby.

Fast forward to 2011, we finally, after 4 years of trying to get pregnant, found out in December that baby #3 was on his way! After the initial celebrations settled down, I began to pour myself into all the resources I could get my hands on about natural childbirth and VBAC’s – I was doing my homework this time around! I had my Husband’s full-support as he wanted a better birthing experience as much as I did.

We hit many obstacles! After consultations with several OBs and a midwife, I was told over and over again that I was a great candidate for a VBA2C (vaginal birth after two C/S) but that hospital policy prevented me from being allowed a trial of labor (TOL). At 18 weeks gestation, I finally found a midwife group and get this… a hospital (!) who would allow me to attempt a VBA2C!!! I also found an excellent Doula who had a high VBAC success rate!

At 1:00 pm, at 39 weeks and 1 day, my water broke! An hour later the contractions his hard and fast! We were 1.5 hours from the hospital and thankfully my dear Husband completely ignored me when I assured him we had plenty of time before heading to the hospital! By the time he loaded up the MommyMobile and we got on the road is right when my contractions hit! When we got stopped in traffic I remember telling him there was no way we were going to make it to the hospital! But, God got us there safe and sound and just in time!

After some hassles through triage, I was in my room pretty quickly. Somehow when I called ahead the staff had alerted the midwives about a different patient coming in so for a while they didn’t realize I was their VBA2C patient! This blip allowed me the opportunity to strip down and jump in the tub (that my Doula started filling for me immediately) and avoid the baseline monitoring they wanted on the baby and the IV which was mandatory for VBAC patients!

The water didn’t bring the degree of relief that I had anticipated but the thought of getting out of the tub was unbearable. The pain was more intense than I had anticipated. At some point, they realized I was indeed their VBAC patient and the room was buzzing with people. I tuned them all out. I remember an OB coming in to get my consent to a C/S “just in case”. I just ignored her for as long as I could and continued tuning everyone out. At one point the pain was too much. I remember talking to God and just resting on Him. At this point, I knew people were around me but I had just checked out and no one had any effect on me. I was just resting in God’s strength because I didn’t have enough on my own. (My husband later told me he thought I had fallen asleep!) All of a sudden, my body just took over and started pushing. It hadn’t even dawned on me what was happening until I heard the midwife call out, “Is she pushing?”. That snapped me out of my God time and the energy in the room consumed me again. That darn OB was still there trying to get me to sign that C/S form despite my best intentions to ignore her.

The midwife checked me and I was complete. My body was expelling my baby anyhow so it didn’t really matter to me at that time if I was complete or not! As per hospital policy, I was only allowed to labor in the tub, but not allowed to deliver in the tub, so the midwife began trying to coax me out of the tub. I ignored her, yelled at her, refused but then finally gave in. My Doula and husband helped me out and dressed me in the gown I had packed.

On the way to the bed, that pesky OB handed me that form to sign again… I scribbled something on it but I doubt it resembled a signature at all. Before making it to the bed, a pressure wave hit so hard I just lowered myself down the ground. Squatting was all I could accomplish at that moment. The nurses and midwives were in a rush to get me on that bed and hooked up to the monitors and IV’s. But, after the way my first labor went downhill with the onslaught of interventions, I refused everything! They monitored baby the old fashioned way while I labored beside the bed.

After a bit, my legs felt too weak and my Doula suggested laboring on the bed but on my right side (I was not about to labor on my back)! My body was still pushing through all of this. The nurse kept trying to get me to agree to the IV all the way up until I was delivering the baby which I continually refused. I’m not sure how many pushes but after about 45 minutes of pushing, I succeeded in birthing my baby! My body was not broken. It knew exactly what to do when left to its inherent devices!

Sweet baby Elias Walker was born at 5:27 pm, just 2.5 hours after we made it to the hospital! No pain medicines. No interventions. He was born the old-fashioned way! I had succeeded at my VBA2C!!! After giving the umbilical cord time to quit pulsating on its own, my dear husband got to cut the cord!

I have to add that through the entire labor, even with contractions right on top of each, no break in between, I never once feared a uterine rupture. To me, that was one of my top reasons for hiring a Doula. I wanted someone who was on MY team, had a vested interested in my success who also knew enough to assure me when everything I was experiencing was completely normal but also would alert me if something I was feeling was NOT normal! Janet was my rock and my husband and I are eternally grateful for her role in VBA2C!

I have absolutely no regrets! What I gained from this experience, other than some frustrations over hospital “policy” and “standard care”, is that our bodies know how to birth our babies. Yes, there are exceptions to that rule, but I truly believe that when we set all the inventions that get in our body’s way aside, it is fully capable to do what God granted it the ability to do – bring life into this world!

As a Childbirth Educator In-Training, I am so thankful for the personal experience I will be able to share with families planning the birth of their babies!

Originally published 2012; View Shara’s birth video here

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My first two labors began with natural birthing dreams, each lasted 24 hours long and for different reasons (neither were medical emergencies) ended in the birth of our boys via c-section surgeries. After my second c-section, I had a very difficult time finding peace and healing from the emotional pain I felt—having “failed” twice. I decided that if at all possible, I would do everything I could to have a vaginal delivery after two c-sections (VBA2C) for my next baby.

I found out I was pregnant with baby #3 in early April; my 2^nd baby boy was only 7 months old. As the surprise faded into excitement, I began the hunt for a good provider who would be supportive of a VBA2C. After many phone calls and questions, I realized it would not be possible to find willing midwives or OB practices who were willing/able to support my birthing goals. The awesome midwives that I saw with our last baby could not legally take on a VBA2C patient.

I met with a local OB and talked to him about my options. Their policies expected a woman to schedule her third c/s at 39 weeks, not go into labor, and follow their prescribed routines. I asked him what would happen if I waited to go into labor, or if I went into labor before the scheduled c/s. He shrugged and suggested that he would then be helping me deliver a baby instead of performing a surgery. I relinquished myself to the reality that was going to be as good as I could find.

Within a few months, my husband received a job offer in another state and we moved our little family. Again, I began my search for a supportive birthing team for my upcoming birth. By this time we found out we were having a girl and I had decided I needed to be mentally/emotionally ok with another c-section since it appeared as if that is what my options were. As I searched online, the local ICAN group had lots of suggestions for me. One suggestion was a home birth, which sounded lovely, but really wasn’t an option for us (my husband’s career is in risk management—you can imagine how those conversations would go).

I was impressed with the ICAN group’s support, interest, and willingness to share ideas. I quickly learned that we had moved to a VERY mother-focused birthing area of the country. I got in touch with a local doula, and she was very eager to help me sort out my thoughts, fears, concerns, questions, and feelings. She encouraged me in my search and suggested I travel 45 minutes to an OB who is known locally as “an OB in midwife’s clothing.” I was told he would be my best option if he would be willing to take me as his patient. At that point, I had almost resigned myself to c-section being my only option, but I was curious to see what this OB thought and run through my main concerns with him.

My main concerns were: 1) the length of time between births, 2) very long labor only to end in c/s, 3) getting past 6 cm (since I never had before), 4) pushing, 5) my mother’s ruptured uterus (causing an emergency c/s & resulting in my brother’s disability), and 6) avoiding interventions from “hospital policies.”  My fears had, at this point, outweighed my earlier determination to experience a natural, vaginal delivery.

When I met with Dr. H, he listened to me share my previous two birth stories; he nodded through my concerns and fears and asked questions to assess my situation. He responded to my concerns and explained that every birth includes certain risks, but there was no reason that I shouldn’t attempt a VBA2C. He also told me that a top reason for the failure of attempted VBACs was the laboring mother losing her mental/emotional focus. His challenge for me was to figure out what I really wanted and then channel that desire into my focus. He said he would support me in whichever birth was my goal—given that my pregnancy continued to be problem-free and the baby was ok.

I left his office with renewed energy and interest in my VBA2C goals. I still was hesitant because of my fears but I was hopeful—this was my opportunity—this doctor was completely positive and supportive! I felt a huge weight was lifted off of my shoulders. I had options and support—it felt amazing.

I told everyone about my “amazing OB in midwives’ clothing” and raved about the possibilities. During subsequent visits, I found out I could labor in a tub, have freedom of movement (with monitoring), eat what I wanted, wear what I wanted, delay the cord cutting, breastfeed immediately after birth, and…have a water birth! I toured the hospital facilities and found them to be fantastically supportive of VBACs, water birth, and other natural birth friendly options. They did require regular monitoring, but besides that, I was free to do as my laboring body wished. I was so excited, I felt like all of my labor & delivery dreams were coming true!

I found a doula trainer and trainee who were willing to join our birthing team and we began the work of getting my mind really, truly on board with my VBAC goals. I skimmed through my collection of birthing preparation books—about birth plans, midwives, doulas, hypnobirthing, Lamaze, Bradley, etc. Upon my doula’s suggestion, I promptly ordered & read Ina May Gaskin’s book, Ina May’s Guide To Childbirth. I believe this book really helped to take me to the next level—the place I needed to be to turn my natural birthing dreams into reality. In her book, Ina May explains the importance of the mind-body connection and the beauty and abilities of a woman’s body. I highly recommend the book for anyone preparing for childbirth.

I read dozens of successful VBA2C stories online, watched birth videos, and started visualizing my own successful labor and delivery. I talked with my doulas about pain relief options and positive affirmations. I typed up a list of affirmations (some from online lists, some from my own heart), printed them, and laminated them. I studied them the weeks before our due date so I could have them on my mind and ready.

I can do this. I will do this. I am doing this!

The night before our baby’s due date, I experienced some strong contractions. My husband packed the car and prepared things for us to leave. I was still able to laugh and talk, I knew it wasn’t time to rush to the hospital. I thought “I’d really love to get a good night’s sleep first” and so we went to bed around midnight.

I was able to sleep until the contractions startled me awake around 8 am! I said a few prayers of gratitude for a good nights’ sleep and pleaded for things to go smoothly during our potential “birth day.” My husband was busy with the boys’ breakfasts and morning routine; I spent some time laboring in bed. I got up and found the app online for timing contractions and started keeping a record. I wondered—would this baby really be born on her due date? I noticed that the day was St. Lucia day and made a mental note of it.

I finished packing a few bags, ate breakfast, talked with my boys—and paused for each contraction. Now they were starting to take my breath away. I breathed through them and held on to whatever I could grab when they came. When each contraction was over, I continued with what I was doing. After a few hours, I retreated to the shower. The water was incredibly relaxing, so I started to fill the tub for a bath. My husband had to warm water on the stove because we ran out of hot water (lots of morning laundry), which I thought was humorous and reminiscent of the generations of women who needed someone to heat water for them to prepare for labor & birth.

In the bathtub, the contractions continued and increased in intensity—I smiled between them, encouraged that my body was DOING THE WORK it knew how to do and that I would meet my baby girl that day. I visualized a gift box—opening slowly, perfectly…the crisp edges fanning out to a wide-open space. I imagined a warm, bright, golden-yellow light swirling around my laboring belly—giving me strength and motivation to breathe deeply and relax. These two visualizations were very helpful as I labored at home.

While I was visualizing, breathing, and focusing—my husband made phone calls to get our boys taken care of, cleaned the house, and called our doula. He checked on me regularly, I was grateful for the work he was doing to prepare for us to leave. When the contractions became strong enough, I asked him to stay in the bathroom with me—to give me counter pressure. I have had back labor through each of my labor experiences and the counter pressure makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE when breathing through that kind of intensity.

My husband breathed with me, counted the contractions and minutes, pushed on my lower back to offer relief, and gave me small kisses. His presence and support were amazing during those hours laboring at home. We thought my water had broken and felt confident things were moving quickly, so we sent text messages to both doulas to meet us at the hospital. The bumps, curves, and quick stops were a challenge, but overall it wasn’t a bad drive…and we were there!

When the registration desk realized that I was in active labor, they shooed us down to the labor & delivery wing of the small hospital. I muttered something under my breath about how I was planning to pre-register that week while Trevor briskly pushed me down the hallway. We left everything in the car so we could quickly get in and get settled. Our previous experience included 24-hour labors so we thought we were far from finished.

One of my doulas was already in our room; it was great to see a familiar face. The nurses pulled up my information; I was checked and signed a few forms. I went to the bathroom and came back to more nurses—they needed to take some blood work. I moaned deeply through the contractions, they took blood, and Trevor gave counter pressure each time. My other doula arrived and put her hand gently on my shoulder when she greeted me…it felt like magic, I instantly relaxed. I thanked her for coming and apologized to everyone in the room for the things I might say or do over the coming hours. They laughed…but I was serious.

I told my doulas how great it was, I knew the contractions were doing hard work and I was focusing on my positive affirmations. A nurse asked about the group B strep antibiotic and on a whim, I refused it. They had me sign a paper and had nothing more to say about it, I was grateful. I didn’t want any extra thing to keep me attached with tubes. They had the monitor set up for continuous monitoring but I tried my best to ignore it and moved as freely as I could. I was back and forth from the bathroom and then on a birthing ball when they came into put in my IV line (hep-lock). It was hospital policy—I didn’t mind since I knew they would put it in and it would be ready if we needed to hook it up for any reason.

Unfortunately, it took several nurses and more than several attempts to find the right vein (both hands, multiple sticks), which was challenging to labor through. My doulas kept cool cloths on my head, my hands massaged, and soothing words in my ears. I kept my eyes closed nearly the entire time.

I can do this. I will do this. I am doing this!

After my water broke (we were wrong about it breaking earlier at home) all over Trevor’s pants (sorry, honey!), the work of labor kicked up a notch (or two, or three!) and I had no idea (I requested not to be told my centimeter-measured progress) I was in transition. The pain was fast, sharp, full and overpowering. I breathed hard and fast. I felt the need to push but my dilation was not so far that it was pushing time (this same thing happened with my last labor after my water broke—contractions PLUS resisting the urge to push). I remembered that it was the beginning of my lack of focus last time. I looked at my doula and she said, “relax and breathe.”

I trusted them. I trusted my doulas, my husband, and my doctor. I knew they wanted me to have a positive birthing experience. I felt the warmth of the contractions and I couldn’t even think of the gift box opening anymore. I could barely imagine the swirls of light around my birthing body…it was crowding in.  I told them I wanted in the water. I needed in the water. The nurses scrambled and then reported back that they were missing some wire or connector for the fetal monitor to go in the water.

I asked if I could still get into the tub, and they said ‘no.’ I said “seriously?!” The pain was taking over…and I said it: “Can I have an epidural, then?” They all looked shocked and dismissed my request (Trevor was behind me motioning the DO NOT DO IT sign). I asked again, this time with a more demanding voice. My doulas swooped in with words of encouragement and gentle reminders. I couldn’t really think about it, all I wanted was some relief. I had lost my focus, the water wasn’t an option, and I wanted to be soothed. Another contraction came and left with intensity—I breathed hard and loud—and then one of my doulas said: “she wants a water birth…can she have a water birth?”

I remember it as a swirl of commotion—‘what? She wants a water birth?…we have to check her chart to see if she took the blood test…oh yes she did, she can do it…let’s fill the tub…’ We had left our typed up birth plan (and a basket of chocolates for the nurses) in the car…along with my labor outfit, our camera, video camera, labor food, etc. They didn’t know, and I couldn’t even THINK to tell them. Thankfully, our doula was focused and quick. Before I knew it, I had several people helping me gracelessly get situated in a wheelchair to be carried to the water birth room.

I kept my eyes closed most of the time, but I can visualize the few times I opened them during labor. I remember opening them randomly during the drive and initial hospital set-up, during the blood draws, the change in labor positions, the trips to the bathroom, the first IV poke, and as I stepped into the water birthing tub.

The lights were low, there were battery powered tea lights all along the rim of the tub, and there were soft glowing color lights under the water. The water was warm (a balmy 97 degrees) and as my body relaxed under the comforting blanket of the water, I looked around the room and said with the energy of triumph: “I’m having a water birth!”

I can do this. I will do this. I am doing this!

I have been told that when I stepped into the water-birthing tub, my entire countenance changed. I felt it. The pain was still there, the pressure was still intense, the contractions kept coming, and the hard work of labor & delivery was still present—but there is something about the water—it changes the nature of the experience.

The birthing tub offered a sense of security—I felt covered, clothed in water and a kind of privacy, even though I was wearing nothing. I think there is something divine about water—the way I feel around oceans and waterfalls—a feeling that seems to pass through my skin all the way to my soul. I was able to move around in the water—opening up my pelvis in ways I could not do if I was on “dry ground”. It was very liberating. I found myself coming back to the same place though—on my hands and knees—my forehead near the front of the tub.

The nurses worked hard to keep a good read on my baby’s heartbeat (not easy since they still were missing some connecting wires)—they took turns leaning over the tub to keep the monitor in place and finally resorted to just checking in between contractions. Dr. H came in and greeted everyone, he checked me and showed with his hands how far along I had progressed. I had no idea how close we were, so when he said: “Ok, you can push now!” I couldn’t believe it. I said “really!?” and then something like “I don’t know what to do now!”

I knew the work of labor from my previous births but I had never pushed and had no idea what to do to get this baby out! I tried to remember what I had read and discussed with my doulas previously…mind-body connection…and that I didn’t have much more work left before my baby would be in my arms. I still needed counter pressure on my lower back, so Trevor and our doulas took turns behind me with pressure and in front of me with support on my shoulders and cool cloths on my neck/forehead. I started pushing and felt grateful for the security and comfort that the birthing tub gave me.

After a few pushes, I realized that wimpy pushes would just mean I would be pushing and contracting longer—so I decided at the next contraction, I would push with all of the energy I had left. I pushed and groaned a loud, deep-throated primal sound. I did the same thing again and this time I felt a burning pressure—my doula told me this was great and that I would continue to feel that as I birthed my baby. Within a minute or two (it’s all kind of a blur), and after another forceful push, I sat up and opened my eyes.

I looked down and saw a figure floating in the water below me—what I didn’t immediately realize was that my baby was born and my doctor (who really had just stood back and let me do my work) was gently guiding her in the water up towards me. I placed my hands around her little body and pulled her out of the water up to my chest. Our eyes locked for the first time and I couldn’t believe it. Trevor hugged my shoulders and between tears told me what an awesome job I did. All I could think was –“ really?! Did I just DO that?!”

The moments after her birth felt so surreal. I was able to sit in the warm water, cradling my newborn baby for as long as I wanted. I stared in awe at the completion of my first natural birth & my first baby girl. I told her that I loved her and kissed the top of her head. I do not remember every specific detail of those early postpartum minutes—but I will always remember the feelings of joy, triumph, and gratitude.

Trevor cut the cord while my baby girl and I enjoyed skin-to-skin cuddling. I nursed as soon as she wanted to latch on, and all of the extras were delayed until we were ready. We found out a couple of hours after delivery that she weighed in at 10 lbs 3 oz! I sustained one small internal/external tear that required no stitches and we were able to return home after a little over 24 hours of her birth.

My labor lasted around nine hours and I was only in the hospital for about three hours before she was born. Her birth was everything I had always hoped and wished for my babies and myself. This birth experience has given me a renewed sense of self, a healing balm, and a feeling of empowerment. I have felt very close to divinity as I have pondered the emotions, people, and events leading up to my VBA2C.

We named our baby girl Noelle Lucia and she is my dream come true.